This post is all about dating tips.
Dating tips have to be one of my favorite topics of all time to talk about!! And the reason being isn’t because I had a wonderful dating experience… I actually secretly despised dating because I always felt soooo awkward and uncomfortable on dates. 😂
But, what I learned after meeting, dating, and marrying my husband is that dating actually doesn’t have to be awkward, painful, or nerve-wrecking!
You can date in a way that is healthy, fun, and brings you closer to your future marriage.☺️
In this post, I’m going to give you the top 5 tested and proven dating tips for women who want to stop getting hurt and have a thriving relationship!
These are also perfect dating tips for beginners, if you’re new to the whole dating world!
This post is all about dating tips.
Life-Changing Dating Tips for Women
Before I share these Christian dating tips with you, I want to share why I relate and why you could benefit from listening…
I went through a lot of heartache when I was a teenager because I dated anyone who would have me. – I had zero standards.
Because of this, I had my heart completely broken many times, which ended up making me feel like there was something wrong with me, since they didn’t want me…
When really… I wasn’t dating the right type of guys to begin with.
Had I known then what I know now, I could’ve avoided all that heartache.
But because I felt so much heartache, I went into a cycle of always trying to find someone else, every time I was hurt… Which, by the way, only led to more hurt and heartache.
(Do you see yourself in this scenario at all? If so, drop a comment below and tell me, so I know this related to you!)
BUT THEN… I learned these 5 key dating tips and slowly the Lord began to completely change my dating experiences.
- My standards changed.
- The way I dated changed.
- And, most of all, my morals and values in dating changed.
Now, on to the life-changing dating tips I finally learned….
5 Best Dating Tips
*Disclaimer: We can’t promise dating will ever be pain-free, but following these dating tips for new relationships is assured to make it less painful!
Dating Tip #1:
Ask yourself why you’re dating.
Are you dating because you need attention? Or are you dating because you genuinely feel like someone is a good fit?
Know your intentions and your motives behind dating. If you’re only dating because you don’t want to be alone, you may not truly be ready to date. You need to be comfortable by yourself before you can be happy with someone else.
Ask God to purify your motives and get your heart in the right place before you date!
Dating Tip #2:
Know your boundaries and standards and make them clear from the beginning.
For example, if you’re wanting to follow God’s command to stay pure until marriage… Know that. Make it known. And stick with it! (Coming from personal experience, the right man that God has for you will honor those wishes.)
Dating Tip #3:
As far as online dating tips goes, make sure to get a good feel for the guy before meeting.
Definitely talk on the phone and/or Facetime before meeting in person. — My husband and I met on Tinder and I can totally vouch to how helpful this is!
This is wise for several reasons:
- Safety.
- You’ll feel a lot more comfortable when you do meet in person.
- You’re not risking wasting your time if you’re not a good fit from right off the bat.
Dating Tip #4:
Date in public places where you can talk.
It’s very easy and tempting while dating to focus on the outward appearance and, if you’re not careful, fall immediately into physical intimacy. This robs you of the time of truly getting to know each other and deciding if you actually like each other (not just the way each other looks.)
A good thing to remember is “have your private time in public.”
Dating tips for introverts: if sitting in a coffee shop or having dinner to chat makes you nervous, do something fun! Go play mini golf, throw axes, or hangout in a group of friends!
Dating Tip #5:
Don’t ignore the red flags.
When God gives you red flags, you need to listen! If you avoid them, you will only regret it once you are more deeply invested into the relationship.
A few dating red flags include:
- Not putting in effort to see you.
- They tell you they don’t want anything serious.
- When you know there is “potential” but they have to change things first to be a good fit.
- You are unequally yoked (meaning you are a Christian, but they are not.)
What the Bible Says About Dating
2 Timothy 2:22 – So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.
When I read the words “youthful passions,” I think of lust. — Lust is a feeling that doesn’t last and the Bible actually warns against it.
Lust is actually the reason many divorces happen. — Many couples come together through the romantic, lustful feeling…
They’re so focused on and infatuated by each other’s appearance and being sexually attracted to one another that they’re blinded, in a sense, to the fact that they don’t actually have much in common with that person, and there’s no actual reason that they’re compatible for each other.
Of course, you need to be attracted to your partner. But make sure not to focus on the Hollywood lust we see in movies… Rather, focus on who will actually be a good partner for you long-term… and one who is chasing after the lord.
2 Corinthians 6:14 – Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
As a Christian, it’s extremely important that you’re also dating another Christian. You need to have someone committed to growing in Christ on their own, as well as with you.
If this isn’t the case, the other person will certainly hold you back from your own spiritual growth.
Proverbs 31:30 – Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Once again, watch for the red flags. Don’t be fooled by a charming man who speaks smooth words, but treats you poorly.
Actions speak much louder than words.
Pursue the Lord and He will give you discernment on what a good man looks like.
I hope you enjoyed this post about dating tips! If you found this helpful, you’ll probably also love my quick guide to developing healthy Godly relationships that stick!
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